Confidence

The fact that I’m writing this on my phone speaks to how profoundly it affects me.

Have you ever noticed that people decide to stop a discussion only when it’s leading away from their beliefs on a subject? Never mind that there are tons of posts that agree with them that are downright NASTY mean.

If the discussion is about circumcision and they’re positive you’re dooming your child to a disgusting, infected penis and HIV, they think the time to stop is right after someone posts that they feel circumcision is unnecessary, not after yet *another* post that circumcision is “a good thing” and that anyone that doesn’t circ is a moron.

If the discussion is about cloth diapers, it’s always after the post about how easy cloth diapering actually is, not after someone says that people that use cloth must go around stinking like poop all the time because their washer can’t *possibly* be clean.

If it’s a discussion about vaccinations, they always want to stop the discussion after solid information showing that vaccinations are dangerous and unnecessary, not after all the posts blaming non-vaccinating parents for their child’s sneeze and saying how they have to vaccinate to protect their child from your child that will kill their child, or some other such absolute nonsense.

I dunno, if you can’t defend your decisions without getting nasty, seems to me you’re probably not that confident in your decision and may need to rethink it, eh?

And, yes, if you think this is pointed at you, it probably is.

Vaccines – say WHAT?!

The subject of vaccines seems to come up in a cycle. It comes up before we have our babies, shortly after birth, when they are supposed to be getting them (3 months, 6 months, 1 year, etc.), as well as, of course, any time they’re in the news. So, as Emma is now a year old, the issue has come up on her birth board again.

Just for clarification, my decision to NOT vaccinate has NOTHING to do with a possible link with the increase in Autism cases. That’s a post for another day, but in short I believe there are many many reasons for the increase in diagnosis of Autism and I don’t believe that vaccines can be blamed for all of it, if any.

So. Here’s the argument that confuses me the most:

“If you don’t vaccinate your child, you’re putting my child at risk”

Huh?

If your vaccinated child and my unvaccinated child are at school together, and my child happens to get one of the childhood diseases that vaccines are supposed to protect against, if your child gets it, then doesn’t it stand to reason that your child’s vaccine wasn’t the miracle you thought it was? To me, this emphasizes a reason to NOT vaccinate. If someone is concerned enough about their fully vaccinated child getting sick from my non-vaccinated child, then, to me, that shows that that parent KNOWS that the vaccines are ineffective and unnecessary.

“No, no, it’s because when a child is one, they’re not fully vaccinated, that’s why they can get sick from an unvaccinated child”

Right. Okay. So, you have a chemically-injected unprotected child and I have a chemical-free unprotected child. Well then, I’ll get right on injecting my child with dangerous chemicals just so they can be as UNprotected as your chemical-laden child. Uh huh.

“Well, at least if you vaccinate your child it will reduce their risk of getting sick and reduce the possiblilty that they’ll pass it on to my child”. (who is vaccinated and supposedly protected anyway)

Huh?!

So, in this case somehow my child’s vaccinations will be more effective than your own.

Wait. Why am I injecting chemicals into my child again? Nope. Still can’t figure it out.

Oh right. I’m not!

I have not heard anything yet – that makes sense – that shows that vaccinating my child will protect yours, or that vaccinating your child somehow protects mine. But, if anyone wants to try, feel free 🙂

Gossip

I was recently watching the movie Doubt. At one point the character of Father Flynn says the following during one of his homilies. It really struck me so I thought I’d share it here.

A woman was gossiping with her friend about a man they hardly knew – I know none of you have ever done this… That night, she had a dream. A great hand appeared over her, and pointed down at her. She was immediately seized with an overwhelming sense of guilt. The next day, she went to confession. She got the old parish priest, Father O’Rourke, and she told him the whole thing.

“Is gossiping a sin?” She asked the old man. “Was that the hand of God All Mighty pointing a finger at me? Should I be asking your absolution, Father? Tell me, have I done something wrong?”

“Yes.” Father O’Rourke answered her. “Yes, you ignorant, badly brought up female. You have borne false witness against your neighbor. You played fast and loose with his reputation, and you should be heartily ashamed.”

So the woman said she was sorry, and asked for forgiveness.

“Not so fast.” says O’Rourke. “I want you to go home, take a pillow upon your roof, cut it open with a knife, and return here to me.”

So the woman went home, took a pillow off her bed, a knife from the drawer, went up the fire escape to her roof, and stabbed the pillow. Then she went back to the old parish priest as instructed.

“Did you gut the pillow with a knife?” He says.

“Yes, Father.”

“And what was the result?”

“Feathers.” she said.

“Feathers.” he repeated.

“Feathers. Everywhere, Father.”

“Now I want you to go back, and gather up every last feather that flew out on the wind.”

“Well,” she said, “It can’t be done. I don’t know where they went. The wind took them all over.”

“And that,” said Father O’Rourke, “is gossip.”

It’s a sad sad world

BabyCenter is making the change over to a new board software. The old boards, as a consequence, are in the process of being shut down. As a last thing many are posting about the things they remember most, the good and the bad. Unfortunately, people are taking this opportunity to highlight the bad and not the good.

Most of the threads bumped or linked are ones were people were treated like absolute garbage for their choices in parenting. An entire thread is full of nothing but personal attacks against a member who doesn’t even post anymore, the ultimate in childishness. It’s truly sad that so many negative people are raising children, and even worse, many of them are pregnant with another. It’s even sadder that no one has the guts to stand up and say THIS IS WRONG.

I thought I left high school and all the cliques picking on people who are different than them, I thought I had left the need to go with the crowd, I thought I had left needing to be ‘in’ with the ‘popular kids’ no matter how INCREDIBLY nasty they are.

Guess not.